12 steps to develop Safe Attachment in your children

develop Safe Attachment in your children:

The factor that will determine how they do in school and in life is the strength of the relationship he or she has with the primary parent or caregiver.

1- Transmit protection and security:

It is necessary that there is a main figure in charge of the most important care, as well as meeting their needs and giving them love.

2- Promote autonomy:

At first, they will show their curiosity with their eyes, but months later they will begin to turn around, crawl, crawl, walk, etc. Everything around him catches his attention, since he has never seen, touched or explored it.

3- Explain events that they do not understand:

We must take into account the age and situation of the child to adapt our response.

4- Be seen:

They ask the authority or attachment figure to observe them and give them feedback on how they are doing.

It is essential that our children are seen and that we dedicate enough quality time to them.

5- Impose limits in a sensible way:

“I don't let you do this or that because I love you”. Although it is difficult for us to deny them something, it is essential to establish limits for their correct development and self-esteem.

6- Emotionally tune in:

We must identify well and precisely what they need or the emotion they are experiencing

7- Act Responsively:

This step is done right after you tune in with your child emotionally.

For example: If something bothers him or scares him, and you identify it (tune in), it is important to try to give him a solution to his need.

8- Respect and allow the expression of their emotions:

Any emotion that our children feel is legitimate, but not all associated behavior should be allowed or accepted.

9- Be available:

It is important to show a positive and respectful attitude with the minor, understanding that the learning process is a long-distance race that requires a lot of patience and perseverance.

10- Be predictable and consistent:

For example, in anxious-ambivalent attachment, a type of insecure attachment, one of the most outstanding characteristics of these parents is that they are very ambivalent, that is, they respond to their children irregularly based on many variables beyond the children's control.

11- Empowerment:

It is very important that the baby feels supported in what he does.
And that he feels that his parents trust him to do well.

12- Unconditional love:

There is no condition that makes our affection or love towards them rise or fall.